You can get many things in life by simply convincing someone else to give them to you – but they aren’t going to give it to you without a good reason. Your greatest tool to get what you want is through the psychology of persuasion. Here are seven persuasive tactics you can use to get it from anyone.
Be confident
The more confident you are, the more convincing your arguments are going to sound, and the more powerful you will appear.
- Confidence is easy to fake and hard to distinguish, so don’t be afraid if you don’t feel confident – just act confident.
Choose your words carefully
Don’t inject big words into your sentences, arrange your sentences to ensure your meaning comes across precisely
- In the process, you’ll come across as a better communicator, which will make you seem more intelligent and thoughtful, and therefore more trustworthy.
Use flattery
Use subtle phrasing and off-the-cuff remarks to flatter your recipient.
- For example, instead of telling your boss, “Hey, that’s a really nice tie, do you think I could take an extra hour for lunch today?” try something like, “Can I have an extra half-hour, please?”
Introduce a logical argument
Persuasion is the process of convincing an opponent to change their beliefs and/or behavior through moral or logical argument.
- When someone is persuaded to do something, they do it because they have come to believe it is the right or best thing to do.
Be patient, but persistent
If you’re unsuccessful, let the situation go, recollect yourself, and try again at a later time.
- Your persuasive messages will linger in his or her subconscious, and the next time you bring up the argument, you have a chance to seem more reasonable (and more persuasive).
Make It seem Beneficial to the Other Party
Make your request seem valuable to the other party
- For example, if you want to convince a friend to help you move, talk about how much fun it will be to go through your old junk instead of the move itself
