Alex Cooper: Feeling Insecure and Setting Boundaries | Jay Shetty
Alex Cooper shares her experience with social media-induced insecurities and the importance of setting boundaries.
She emphasizes the need for self-care, genuine relationships, and self-acceptance.
The podcast also highlights the value of being intentional, understanding personal motives, and finding supportive partners.
Valuing being understood is overrated and exhausting
Trying to be understood by people, especially strangers on social media, can be a never-ending and futile endeavor.
Instead, focus on being true to yourself and let go of the need for others to fully understand you.
Life is about degrees, not absolutes
Recognize that life is complex and should be seen as a series of degrees rather than a binary choice.
There are different levels of closeness and connection with people.
Consider the motive behind posting your partner on social media
Ask yourself why you feel the need to show off your relationship to others.
Is it to seek validation or approval?
True confidence means not relying on exterior validation.
Being understood is so overrated and exhausting because who you’re mostly trying now in the age of social media to be understood by is people you don’t even know. –
The value of privacy in relationships
Maintaining a balance between being open about a relationship and keeping certain aspects private allows for stability and focus on the connection without feeling the pressure of public scrutiny.
Work on self-awareness and knowing what you want before entering a relationship
Understand who you are and what you want before seeking a relationship.
Avoid projecting your wants and needs onto someone else.
Setting boundaries in relationships
Establish clear boundaries when discussing conflicts and disagreements publicly, as sharing too soon can hinder the healing process and cause more harm than good.
Setting boundaries is crucial in different areas of life
Recognize that life has degrees, levels, and layers.
Boundaries help establish different levels of closeness with people.
Be intentional in all aspects of life
Approach everything with care and thoughtfulness.
Being intentional creates a different energy and leads to better outcomes.
Building deep relationships takes time and effort
Invest in relationships with people who truly know and understand you, rather than seeking validation from strangers.
It takes approximately 200 hours spent together to know someone deeply.
Life is more boundaries and layers and levels. It’s like we think I’m either close to this person or I’m not, and I’m like, no, you’re closer to this person than this person. It’s not that you’re close or not. –
In a healthy relationship, both partners should support and uplift each other
Honesty and genuine support are attractive qualities in a partner.
Seek a partner who is not intimidated by your success and encourages your growth.
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