How to redefine marriage for lifelong relationship?

Liza Shaw, a seasoned Marriage and Family Therapist, shares her insights on the need to update the traditional model of marriage, which was designed for shorter lifespans.

She emphasizes the importance of creating solutions together, setting realistic expectations, and building a strong foundation of friendship, trust, and shared values in a relationship.

Liza also underscores the role of individuals in making a marriage work and the potential for relationships to be truly fulfilling.

Flawed design of lifelong marriage

The traditional model of lifelong marriage was designed for shorter lifespans and is therefore flawed.

This outdated model needs an upgrade to better suit the realities of modern life and longer lifespans.

Importance of hurt in relationships

In relationships, hurt is inevitable as the closer we are to someone, the more they can hurt us.

Instead of avoiding it, we should value the opportunity to be hurt as it signifies the importance of the person to us and prepare for it.

Compromise versus win-win solutions

Compromise in marriage can lead to resentment and is not empowering.

Instead of compromising, couples should focus on creating solutions together that feel like a win-win, contributing to each other’s happiness rather than expecting fulfillment from them.