Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself is a self-help book by therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab. It provides practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and taking control of our lives, so that we can find greater peace and fulfillment.
Develop Self-Awareness
A key aspect of reclaiming ourselves is developing self-awareness and understanding our own needs, values and emotions.
By paying attention to our thoughts and feelings, we can learn to recognize our triggers and know when we need to take a step back.
This helps us make more mindful decisions and take better care of ourselves.
Make Space for Yourself
Creating physical space for ourselves is an important part of boundary setting.
We should make sure to carve out time for ourselves – even just a few minutes each day – to do something that nourishes us.
This can help us reconnect with ourselves, gain clarity on what we need, and recharge our batteries.
Have Compassion For Yourself
Taking care of ourselves means having compassion for ourselves when things don’t go as planned or when we make mistakes.
Instead of beating ourselves up over our failures or shortcomings, we should show ourselves kindness and understanding so that we can learn from our mistakes and keep moving forward on the path towards greater peace and fulfillment.
Honor Your Feelings
When it comes to setting boundaries in life, honoring our feelings is key.
We should be mindful of how we feel in different situations or interactions so that we can identify when it’s time to take a step back or set a boundary.
This helps us stay connected to ourselves and make decisions based on what feels right for us instead of what others expect of us.
Cultivate Healthy Habits
Taking care of ourselves physically is essential for setting healthy boundaries.
We should make time for ourselves by cultivating healthy habits such as exercising, eating well, getting enough sleep, and avoiding unhealthy substances.
This helps us stay mentally and emotionally strong so that we can better set boundaries when needed.
Practice Assertiveness
Setting boundaries means being assertive and communicating our needs clearly and confidently.
We should practice saying “no” without guilt or apology, but with grace and respect.
This helps us create healthy relationships, maintain our personal integrity, and take control of our lives.
Seek Professional Help
If we are struggling with setting boundaries in our lives, it can be helpful to seek professional help.
A therapist or counselor can provide insight into why we struggle with boundary setting and help us develop strategies for better managing our emotions and making better decisions.
Prioritize Self-Care
Self-care is essential for setting healthy boundaries in life.
We should prioritize activities that bring us joy, relaxation, or connection – such as journaling, reading, meditating, or spending time with friends – so that we can stay mentally healthy and better manage stress when faced with difficult situations or people.
Respect Others’ Boundaries
Setting boundaries includes not only respecting our own boundaries, but also respecting the boundaries of others.
We should be mindful of how we interact with others and be open to hearing their needs, even if they don’t align with our own.
This helps us cultivate healthier relationships based on mutual respect.
Learn From Your Mistakes
Setting boundaries is a process that requires practice and patience.
We will make mistakes along the way, but it’s important to learn from them instead of beating ourselves up over them.
We should be gentle with ourselves as we grow and trust in our ability to make better decisions in the future.
