Unravel the intriguing dynamics of human behavior as we delve into the paradox of control. Explore why individuals struggling with self-control often exert dominance over others, and the psychological mechanisms that underpin this fascinating aspect of human interaction.
Some people have little to no ability to handle their fears, emptiness, and frustration
Faced with their inability to control and deal with all these things, the person focuses their energy on others
- This can lead to excessive demands and the construction of a rigid, suffocating relationship that completely negates the other person’s emotional integrity
What should I do?
Few things are as necessary for personal growth as developing good self-control
- It is important to have the right amount of emotional autonomy and control over our emotions
- Living is admitting there are more uncertainties than there are certainties
- To do that, nothing works better than investing in our willpower and understanding and processing our own emotions
The Need to Control and a Lack of Emotional Autonomy
The need to control manifests itself in infinite different contexts, moments, and situations.
- When a controlling person wants something, they don’t ask, they demand. They look for instant gratification, unconditional attention, and “givers.”
- These people will be willing and ready to orbit their own universe.
What If I’m the One with a Need to Control Others?
We have to determine whether we’re actually the ones with a need to control people
- Sometimes it takes a first-person reflection to determine this
- The trigger for this behavior might be financial problems, being abandoned by our significant other, or even the loss of a loved one
- Our brains start to anticipate bad things and we start to demand things from people that might be beyond their responsibilities
