Unravel the intricate web of human expectations and their profound impact on our behavior and relationships. Delve into the fascinating realm of psychology to understand how our anticipations shape our perceptions, decisions, and ultimately, our lives.

Why unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments

We believe that merely expecting something to happen will not make it happen

  • Human beings have a natural tendency to pin their hopes for happiness on fulfilled expectations
  • If we believe that our expectations alone will bring me what I want, I am using magical thinking and setting myself up for disappointment
  • This is really obvious when we are talking about coffee – just expecting a cup of coffee to appear is delusional

Unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments

Believing that an unverbalized expectation will bring you what you want is magical thinking

  • Expecting others to do what is in your interest, but not their interest, is unrealistic
  • Let go of expectations and find something to be grateful for, even when things do not go according to plan

Marianne @ Along the Side of the Road gives us a whole list

Ever order a steak in a restaurant as medium-rare, and it gets served to you well done?

  • Ever ask your teen to do the dishes and come home from work to find they’re not done? Ever go to drive somewhere and it takes twice as long because of construction?

Expecting life to always turn out the way you want is guaranteed to lead to disappointment

Unfulfilled expectations involve resentment and anger

  • Do not get angry at other people when they fail to meet your expectations
  • It is unrealistic to think that merely communicating your expectations clearly is going to get people to behave in accordance with your expectations

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