Once a couple of people have settled into a relationship, things can fall into a bit of a rut. Routines form, attentiveness that was present at the beginning of the courtship might be replaced by content complacency, and ultimately tensions arise. These simple tips may seem like common sense, but you may be surprised at how often people forget about their importance.
Communication is Vital
Very few of us are able to read one another’s minds, so it is important to express things that weigh on us
- Even though we may feel that we know our partners well after several years, remember that we all grow and change over time, and methods of communication must change along with us as needed
Have Faith In Your Partner
If you’ve been cheated on or otherwise betrayed by another partner, you might worry that the same thing will happen in your current relationship, and this may cause you to imagine things or accuse your partner without just cause.
- Talk it out with them, and consider seeking therapy.
Mutual Goals are Important
Have a goal or project that you’re both working on together
- Determine your strengths for the project so you’re working in harmony
- Build something amazing together that you can both be proud of
- This can affect many aspects of your life outside of your relationship
Be Honest
Truth is the best policy
- Do not lie out of fear of offending or hurting the other person
- This does not have to deal with outright lies but rather personal interests or preferences that may have changed over the years
- A strong couple can work through just about anything together
Share Some Hobbies, and Have Solo Pursuits as Well
While it’s great to pursue some hobbies and interests together, it’s important to have your own social groups and interests as well.
Never Take Each Other for Granted
Be aware of every wonderful thing your partner does for you
- Thank them for doing the dishes or making your favorite food dish
- They’ll feel appreciated for the love and kindness they show you and will express their appreciation to you in turn
Admit When You’re Wrong
If you discover that you’ve been wrong about an issue/bit of information/whatnot, own up to it.
Leave the Past In the Past
Move past it and use the experience as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Respect Each Other’s Alone Time
Too much time spent together can make you irritable, especially if you feel like your personal space is always being invaded
- Time alone is necessary for personal reflection, growth, meditation, or just quiet contemplation
- Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and you’ll appreciate your partner a lot more after having some space away from them
Don’t “Let Yourself Go”
Once certain comfort levels have been reached and closeness wins out over early awkwardness, some behavioral patterns will change.
- Try to keep things tidy and your appearance a step or two above “slovenly” to ensure that your partner will undoubtedly feel that they’re worth making an effort for you.
