Podcast #702: One Man’s Impossible Quest — To Make Friends in Adulthood

Podcast #702: One Man’s Impossible Quest — To Make Friends in Adulthood

Embarking on a seemingly impossible quest, one man challenges the norms of adult friendships. Discover the trials, triumphs, and insights gleaned from his journey, as he navigates the complexities of forming meaningful connections in adulthood.

The author of We Need to Hang Out: A Memoir of Making Friends discusses the problem of male loneliness in the modern age

How men and women do friendships differently, the way men do theirs shoulder to shoulder, and why they require what he calls “velvet hooks.”

Billy Baker: I tried a lot of things that were… I tried to reunite my high school class

I had this thought experiment where I was like, “What was the best day I remember from high school?” And it was Senior Skip Day when everyone ditched school at the same time, and we all felt like we were these real rebels

Why are men so susceptible to loneliness?

The health consequences of loneliness

Billy Baker: We did outdoor stuff.

A fire was the one thing we could do. We could light a fire on these cold nights, get together safely outside, and there’s something about sitting around a fire with guys that feels very primitive and nurturing.

The Art of Manliness Podcast:

Several years ago, there was a Tweet that went viral that said that Jesus had 12 close friends in his 30s

When you’re pairing up, you get to a point where you’re getting serious with someone, and every guy gets that talk where they’re like, Alright, you need to stop spending so much time with the boys and start spending more time with me.

But then, after a while, the reverse happens, where the woman is like, You need to get out of the house and call so and so, and then they start full-time in person in a week, and they’re looking forward to just having daily friendship, and not having daily friends.

Well, that wraps up another edition of the AOM podcast. As always, thank you for listening and please give us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher Premium.

Please consider sharing this show with a friend or family member who you think would get something out of it. Until next time, Brett McKay

What are the dire health consequences of loneliness?

Your chances of dying go up dramatically if you don’t have a strong social circle.

What goes missing in these vital years in the middle of life are these shoulder to shoulder opportunities.

Billy Baker: I think it happened without even noticing. I was doing the things that it seemed like I was supposed to be doing

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