Ever wished you could rewind time to unsay something? Or perhaps, regretted not speaking up when it mattered? Navigating the labyrinth of spoken words and silences can be tricky. Let's explore how to handle such situations and move forward.
How often have you said something and instantly wished you could take it back?
How often did you not say what you needed to, only to replay the conversation that could’ve been? The love you could’ve shown.
- And all you’re left with is the agony of “if only.” “If only I’d spoken up.”
Step 3: Decide on the right action
Practice: Ask yourself, “What would the best version of me do right now?”
- Next time you regret something you said, or didn’t get to say, listen to the tantrums of fear or shame with compassion and curiosity, but act with the silent wisdom of the loving parent who lives within you.
Step 1: Meet the Emotion with Compassion
Self-compassion helps calm feelings of shame and inadequacy because it talks the language of emotion
- Many people don’t know how to say a kind word to themselves because they don’t remember ever being spoken to that way
- When you speak to yourself with kindness and understanding, you build the courage and conscious awareness to take corrective action where needed
Listen to an Emotion’s Message with Curiosity
Emotions are messengers from the inner world. Numbing them, bottling them up, or distracting ourselves doesn’t make them go away.
- The way we show up as our best selves is to listen to the message the emotion is trying to convey and identify the one that’s causing the most angst and begin with that.
