Are you aware that as you grow up, friendship is the thing that drifts away most easily? Work, vacation, relationships, family times – they’re all so important to life that it’s just hard to put friendship at a higher priority. Here’s some good news for you…

Friendship does have its purpose

Alex Lickerman, the author of The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self talks about the things that draw people together as friends

  • We build bonds with people who share the common interests, share common values, have gone through the same difficulties, and who support each other equally

Want reassurance

We need the kind of friend who understands our thoughts and weaknesses so we can feel comfortable to let down our guard and be comfortable with who we are

  • Don’t be afraid to share your thoughts and ideas because you’re not alone

The spiritual core reason for a friendship is to help us change and grow

You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with

We also want to have fun with people who we can be silly with

Life is stressful; and we’re taught to always be serious and mature at work and in life as a grown-up.

  • Friends here, serve the purpose of letting you be as silly as you want and share the joy and excitement with you

Moving on from some friendships simply means you’ve understood what real friendship is like

Dare to let go of some people who don’t help you change and grow as a better and a happier person

  • Move on from the friendships that you can hardly maintain
  • Don’t feel guilty about not having the same friends, keep the memories

Sometimes, we need someone’s help to clarify our minds

A thinking friend who gives us constructive advice and asks us probing questions can inspire us to solve our problems and get to know ourselves better

Network to seek collaborators

We have our own dreams and goals but we are small and fragile as an individual. To get things going, we need collaborators to align their abilities and energies with ours

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